Keep it Cool

When it comes to dating, I am no expert. However, I think what some girls lack is a relaxed mindset about it. Don't go crazy over a guy just because he just happens to look your way. If you find a man attractive go up to him and introduce yourself and get to know the man. He's not gonna bite, hopefully. I have come to find that the more you know about a person, the more the imaginary person you envisioned in your head goes away and the real person becomes apparent. Then you are truly able to tell whether you'd like to embark on a wild adventure called a relationship/courtship, whatever you wanna call it. This has helped me so much. I have prevented making rush decisions, stalker walks around buildings and adding strangers on facebook. It's like when you're on a diet and you have a craving for something. Wait a week and see if you still want that thing you were craving. Sometimes it does last, and you may run into the person again. Just keep the conversation light, don't plan any weddings. Plan to do group activities so you can see how he interacts with others. See if you have common interests. And if you don't find your soulmate in this guy, hey, you may just have a new friend who also has friends who may be your "soul mate". I actually don't believe in soulmates. I think there may be several people out there who could your match, it just depends on what you want. We're very complex creatures with different puzzle pieces that make us whole. And one person can't fit with each of those pieces, you might have someone who fits well with one or two and to me that's good enough, as long as they inspire you and make you wanna be a better person. I will not settle for just okay, I want extraordinary. I wanna make magic with my potential partner, not just between us, but with others around us. I want to make a difference and inspire change.